positive praise

Say the Good Stuff

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Sometimes I am overwhelmed by a good feeling toward someone else, I want to say it, but my first reaction is to keep it in. I’ve learned to override that destructive, self-protective instinct and express what is on my heart.

If you suddenly feel warm feelings of love or pride towards your children, say it out loud. If you are humbled that your spouse has been there for you for all of these years, tell him. If your friend did something that inspired you, give her credit and let her know that she had an impact on you.

Say what is in your heart, with words and actions. Photo by: Cheryl Empey, Sxc.hu
Say what is in your heart, with words and actions. Photo by: Cheryl Empey, Sxc.hu

Here’s an idea: do it with strangers too. Verbalize the compliment that came into your head about them.

I am no longer surprised to notice how absolutely starved so many people are for positive praise. In our consumer-driven entitled society, so many of us are quick to complain about how others aren’t pleasing us. We don’t spare the criticism in our own self-talk either. This is not good.

Sharing the positives has a way of turning things around for everyone involved.

There comes a time when it is too late. At that point, all that was left unsaid can haunt us relentlessly. Say what you need to say. Do it now.


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The information in this post is general information and is not a substitute for personal mental health advice.