Purpose

Listen to your Calling

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I don’t know why I write, whether it will ever amount to what the world considers valuable: money or recognition. I don’t know if it’s all just a big waste of time. But I am compelled, so I write. I allowed myself to notice recently that I spend EVERY day thinking about what I will write. I think about writing even when I have nothing to write. This, I remind myself constantly, is reason enough to engage it.

What is it that you are called to do? Are you listening to that calling? Or ignoring it, squelching it, pushing it away? 

Children are often better than adults at knowing what they want to do and doing it. Adults ask too many questions. Photo by Mokra, Sxc.hu
Children are often better than adults at knowing what they want to do and doing it. Adults ask too many questions. Photo by Mokra, Sxc.hu

There are lots of things we have to do in a day, a week. But spending some time on your passion is what makes that week worth living. Regardless of the outcome. Regardless of whether it “amounts” to anything in the eyes of anyone else. We’re so obsessed with outcomes. I’ve struggled with this, but I do, in my better moments, accept that the outcome is not the point. I’m following where I’m led. And if it goes “nowhere”, well, whose label is that anyway?

Maybe what we love to do is worth doing even if it is only whimsy.

I work with people who are very burned out because of the enormous and unending responsibilities they have, taking care of a sick loved one. Doing something they love, even if only for a half-hour, is the only way they keep themselves going. It releases and recharges them. Statistics show those caregivers who take care of themselves in this manner are healthier and actually live longer. The life force is never wrong.

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The information in this post is general information and is not a substitute for personal mental health advice.

Don’t Just “Get Through” It

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What are we always waiting for that we think is better than what we have right now? I want to do more than just “get through” the day, the work-week, the school year, college, the kids college, the daily chores, and my whole life up until retirement.

Today I stopped and looked – just looked – at my children and absorbed them into my heart, just as they were in that ordinary moment. It was one of the greatest moments of my life.

I don’t want to retire from living until the life has left my body. Every moment carries a possibility of igniting the passion that leads to the meaning of life.

Keep your hart and soul open to the sparks. Photo: Dantada, Morguefile.com
Keep your heart and soul open to the sparks. Photo: Dantada, Morguefile.com

Being open to these possibilities, I’ve learned, requires practice and attention. It involves keeping the heart open.

A few years ago I was sick for five months. The worst part was being unable to take care of my children, who were young. The daily chores that used to be mundane and annoying to me were not an option now. I felt helpless. As a mother of small children, helpless is maybe the worst feeling you could have. But I was still well enough to do laundry. My folding those clothes took on new meaning for me. I did it religiously. It was my great act of love for my family, and I was grateful, at the time, that I could even do it since I couldn’t do all that much else for them.

When I do housework now, having been restored to full health, I have this new perspective about it. Do I forget and complain sometimes? Sure. But I have this opportunity now, to be alive, in love and gratitude, when I am doing housework, rather than just getting through it.

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Why am I Here?

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Do you know why you were born? What you are here to do?

Your purpose depends on your gifts. Do you know what your gifts are? Everyone has at least one. Your gifts are  the traits and abilities and passions that define you, that give you your unique identity. The ones that can be used for the good of others.

I watch so many people dismiss their own giftedness. The things that they do well, they cut down  and say, “Oh, anyone can do that, that is nothing special.”  Or, “Why doesn’t that person do what I do? Why do I always have

This is how using your gifts should make you feel. Photo by Anita Peppers, Morguefile.com
This is how using your gifts should make you feel. Photo by Anita Peppers, Morguefile.com

to be the one to do it?” If you say or think these things, you may be de-valuing  your unique gifts. I’ll show you what I mean by telling you about my friend Heather.

Doing What You Love

I love working on volunteer projects with her because Heather will happily do things that, to me, if I had to do them…..well,  truly I’d rather stick needles in my eyes. I value what she does so much, I don’t know if she has any idea how hard those things would be for me because they seem to come so easy to her.

I’ve learned not to volunteer for those kinds of jobs because I hate them and it makes me unhappy. But I contribute to the projects doing the things that I like to do, that maybe she wouldn’t think of doing. I don’t moan and whine that I have to do all the writing. I like it. She doesn’t complain that she organizes the events. She’s great at it. We appreciate each other’s contribution and we don’t try to make each other like the other. She uses her gifts, I use mine. Perfect.

Finding how to use your gifts in the way that brings you joy, rather than depletes you, should lead you to your purpose in life.

Do You Have Something to Offer?

I don’t care what you think is wrong with you, or how “defective”  or limited you think you are. Today is a new day. There is something of beauty inside of you that, when expressed, brings goodness to those around you. However tightly you cling to the belief that you were overlooked when “the gifts” were given out, I guarantee you were not.

So what it is that you love to do? What is it that you do that feels good when you do it? What did you always think you would like to do that you are not doing now? Start there.

Do what you love, find your purpose. Photo by Scott Middell, Morguefile.com
Do what you love, find your purpose. Photo by Scott Middell, Morguefile.com

Copyright 2013, Lisa C. DeLuca. . Re-posting this article on the web is against copyright law and it will harm this website. Instead of copying this work, if you like it, post a quote from it and  link back to this page. Please do not reprint or distribute my work without permission. If you would like to use my work in any form, other than linking to it, please contact me at LisaCDeLuca (at) gmail.com. Thank you.

The information in this post is general information and is not a substitute for personal mental health advice.