Love

Interacting with Plants, Animals and People

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I sat on a butterfly-shaped bench in the indoor exhibit, soaking in the trickly sounds of water  in a little man-made pond. The air was warm and pleasantly moist, pink and orange flowers and twisty-barked green trees canopied, draped and colored the rocks and stone pathways in this little wonderland. Butterflies of every color and size flitted around, sometimes gently landing on me.

Photo by Izabelha, Sxc.hu
Photo by Izabelha, Sxc.hu

There was nothing to say or do. I just sat and absorbed the calm of the environment into my cells.

I watched a young woman examining the foliage, looking for dying flowers to clip and prune. I could see by the focused way she studied each bloom that she understands a plant’s mood. She knows the difference between a plant’s expression that signals over-watering vs. parching, withering vs. finding its legs. How could she know this about a species that can’t talk?

I have always been  a sucky gardener. I don’t get plants at all I’m in awe of people who do. To me, reading people seems much easier. In fact, I had spent the morning on the phone with my mom, talking her through a crisis that had her anxious and delusional. She is recently widowed and has dementia. She was like a new person after we talked. I felt somewhat depleted, but very useful.

Connection to any living thing feeds the soul, whether it’s other people, an animal or even a plant. We are better when some living thing responds to us and when we understand and respond to it. The understanding that reading plants and reading people serve the same purpose made me feel like if I spent enough time, and really listened, I could maybe learn the language of plants too.

If it’s getting hard to connect with people as it sometimes does, maybe this will help. Either way, don’t give up on connecting with life and all that is living. We need this, we all really do.

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Stop and Take Notice of Your Insides

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I am walking down the steps. The goldendoodle we are sitting for is at the bottom, looking for all the world like a raggedy stuffed animal toy from an alien planet.  Her cuteness makes me smile. She will go home tomorrow and the long curly white dog hairs and pieces of chew toy all over the rugs and couch will be expunged. I will welcome the peace that replaces the mess and chaos. At the same time,  I will miss the funny, joyful dog.

Stop and savor the sunset.
Stop and savor the sunset.

If you took a snapshot of my heart just then, as I paused on the steps to soak in what I was feeling, it would transmit  joy and thanksgiving. I love my life and all the good things in it.  I stood there for awhile, mid-staircase, savoring it all.

Funny goldendoodle - makes me smile.
Funny goldendoodle – makes me smile.

Life would have us all be too busy to stop and notice warm moments like these. 

Rituals and holidays are important, but some of them create so much busy-ness, they drown out the meaning  they claim to exist for.  I don’t want to be told I need to eat turkey and feel grateful today.

I think the better message is to take some things off your plate, stop what you are doing and notice these moments of joy and gratitude as they occur naturally. It takes practice to do this, and awareness, and openness.  We sometimes use the busy-ness of life and holidays to protect our hearts from opening to the deep-real. That is like knowing the heart beats without feeling its life-giving rhythm.

Goldendoodle with boy at sunset. Photo by M. DeLuca
Goldendoodle/alien stuffed animal with boy at sunset.

 

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Say the Good Stuff

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Sometimes I am overwhelmed by a good feeling toward someone else, I want to say it, but my first reaction is to keep it in. I’ve learned to override that destructive, self-protective instinct and express what is on my heart.

If you suddenly feel warm feelings of love or pride towards your children, say it out loud. If you are humbled that your spouse has been there for you for all of these years, tell him. If your friend did something that inspired you, give her credit and let her know that she had an impact on you.

Say what is in your heart, with words and actions. Photo by: Cheryl Empey, Sxc.hu
Say what is in your heart, with words and actions. Photo by: Cheryl Empey, Sxc.hu

Here’s an idea: do it with strangers too. Verbalize the compliment that came into your head about them.

I am no longer surprised to notice how absolutely starved so many people are for positive praise. In our consumer-driven entitled society, so many of us are quick to complain about how others aren’t pleasing us. We don’t spare the criticism in our own self-talk either. This is not good.

Sharing the positives has a way of turning things around for everyone involved.

There comes a time when it is too late. At that point, all that was left unsaid can haunt us relentlessly. Say what you need to say. Do it now.

 

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The information in this post is general information and is not a substitute for personal mental health advice.